Aspects between Venus and Pluto in the natal chart can indicate a tendency to become obsessed or possessive in relationship. Sometime a Venus/Pluto person can hold on to a relationship long after it is over, especially if the aspect is a square or opposition. The pleasure principle of Venus is intensified by Pluto and if the two people have been intimate or are in close physical proximity regularly, this can be a magnetic physical and romantic attraction that can feel like a drug. And drug addicts are always looking for the next fix. The more often they see each other, the more attached and controlling the Venus/Pluto person can become. The intense attention and intimacy can move from attraction to repulsion if Venus/Pluto becomes too jealous or possessive.
Aspects between Venus and Neptune can contribute to romantic attachment and the tendency to idealize or romanticize the beloved. Although this is not exactly obsession, it can create false impressions and impractical fantasy when it comes to love, such as , “Oh, he doesn’t really love his wife. It’s me he loves. I can tell by the way he smiles at me,” when the poor guy is just being friendly. Venus in a challenging aspect to Neptune can predispose the owner of this aspect toward unrequited love situations, which can become obsessive. Often, when the beloved is won, the Venus/Neptune person will feel a let down and lose interest because it is the poignant feeling of longing that is now missing in the relationship. Venus/Neptune got what they wanted, so why are they not happy? They prefer to want what they cannot have – it is the unavailability of the beloved that makes them so appealing.
Aspects between Pluto and Chiron can lead to jealousy or possession associated with marriage and family. Even if a serious relationship ends, the person with this aspect, or who forms this aspect with the loved one, could feel that they will eventually marry their beloved if they just wait it out and persist. Or, if a divorce is happening, they may deny the divorce and believe the partner will return or put family first. Even when the ex marries another partner, the person with Chiron/Pluto may hold out for the ex to wake up, break up with their new mate and return to them, and they may fear becoming serious with someone else while waiting for this to happen, in case the ex returns. This can be the saddest obsessive aspect, because it can persist the longest and can make it challenging for other potential mates to love the Chiron/Pluto person who can’t get over an ex.
The interpretations of the aspects mentioned above indicate extremes that are more likely to be seen when aspects are challenging, such as squares or oppositions. When those same planets are involved in supportive aspects, like sextiles and trines, strong attraction, romantic idealism and the desire to stay with a partner forever can be the lighter manifestation of energy, but the shadow side can show under stress or if the partner’s chart activates the natal chart in challenging ways.
At Aloha Astro, Dee can look at the dynamics of love, sex, romance and marriage in your natal chart during a One Hour Reading by phone or Skype. If you would like to look at the dynamics of a relationship, she recommends the Relationship Quickie Recording which comes in a Look and Listen format and is shared through Dropbox.